My Personality Type - ISFJ

Over the past eighteen months I have become more and more interested in peoples personality types and how they are compatible with me.

You can visit several website to take tests to figure out which type you are:
www.keirsey.com
www.humanmetrics.com
www.personalitypathways.com

Basically there are 16 types of people in this world or 16 different types of personalities.  Those 16 types fit into 4 groups, Artisan, Guardian, Rational, Idealist. 

I have become curious if there is research available for the gay community on what personality types they are more compatible with or if it is the same compatibility for everyone in general.

I am an ISFJ (Introverted, Sensing, Feeling, Judging). That fit under the Guardian umbrella.  ISFJ is known as Protector.

Below is a description of who I am and how my love and relationships will be like.  It is pretty spot on with it's description.  Supposedly I should be most compatible with about for personalities (ISFJ/ESFJ or ISTP/ESTP) however some researchers have different opinions on compatibility so I could possibly be compatible with (ISTJ, ENFJ and ESTJ).

Great, so instead of 4 possibly personality types I have seven to choose from.  Seems kind of complicated.  I don't have the time or will power to go on dates with someone who is each one of those personalities.  I can say recently I met three guys that I probably would have had a great connection with for the long-term and they were all ESFJ.  I tend to be about 49% extrovert and 51% introvert.  The guy I dated for about 3 weeks was amazing.  I felt like we understood each other better than anyone else I had ever dated, but then it ended.  I ended it.

There seemed to be a sudden lack of interest in me.  Was it because of my looks or my personality or something completely different.  Who really knows, right?  Anyway, I'm moving on, but with that I am still interested in the next person's personality who I talk to.

I would love to hear from my friends on what their personality types are and see why maybe we get along the way we do.  I would love to hear what personality types my friends that are currently dating are, for my own research to see if it proves true that you are dating someone that you are supposedly suppose to be compatible with.


Love and Relationships

In love, you seek a life partner who will accept and appreciate your gift for nurturing. As you search for this special person, dates and mates alike will receive the benefit of your attention to the nuances of day-to-day living.

Making delicious meals, planning special occasions, and giving great back rubs may be just a few of your wonderful talents. At times you take such wonderful care of your dates and mates that you may forget to take care of yourself. You look for a mate with whom to make a safe and comfortable home. For a romantic partner, you may look for people who are somewhat different than you. As a result, types who are self-possessed and less sensitive than you are can be very attractive to you. Chances are you admire the way this kind of person is able to make their way through life without worrying about what others think. During the early stages of relationships, these differences are likely to be especially endearing and fun.

About James Jaeger

You may have felt dating was not an arena you were successful in since it seems to require less reserve and more pizazz. You may also have been very nervous, worrying what the other person would think of you. When dating you might have been more likely to spend time evaluating your date's potential in a long-term relationship than you were to simply enjoy the event.

One difficulty you may have had in a relationship is in getting the same kind of loyalty from your mate that you give. You will give and give to your partner. When taking care of your loved ones, almost no sacrifice is too much. If your partner does not regularly express appreciation, you are likely to complain about how much work you have to do and how no one helps.

In the same way, one aspect about you that may cause your partner problems is that they may have no clue about how you are feeling and what is really important to you. You run from conflict. You need to remember that your mate is not a mind reader. What seems obvious to you isn't to them. It is important that you learn to clearly verbalize what you want before you start complaining or become resentful.

You are generally a very loyal mate. You do so much for your partner and other family members that they may sometimes take your support of them for granted. You are unlikely to forget anniversaries and birthdays and will also remember many lesser events. Consistency in marking milestones is one of your hallmarks.